Marriage – Facts you need to know - 21
· You need to know forgiveness has occurred when you're not churning inside anymore.
· You need to know to not keep score.
· You need to know that, in a strong marriage, forgiveness is a daily occurrence.
· You need to know the only way to not stay hurt or angry is to forgive.
· You need to know that if prayer alone doesn't help you forgive, maybe a therapist can.
· You need to know few apologies are perfect. Don't dwell on how your spouse could have done better.
· You need to know to get over it.
· You need to know these stats: 25% of marriages have to deal with alcoholism
· 22% with drug addiction
· 28% with infidelity
· 40% with financial crisis
· 100% with each other.
· You need to know to act like you enjoy what your spouse likes. She may love watching the stars at night while you're bored to tears. Still, you watch.
· You need to know that if you concentrate on what's good and right and wonderful about your marriage, soon that's all you'll be able to see.
· You need to know shared sacrifice— like tithing or community service—makes a marriage stronger.
· You need to know your happiness can't rest on what your spouse thinks of you this very moment.
· You need to know God hasn't assigned you to try and control your spouse's thoughts. It's futile to try.
· You need to know how to listen without interrupting. It's real simple: don't open your mouth.
· You need to know the more you practice acceptance, the happier your marriage will be.
· You need to know to develop the gift of seeing things from your spouse's point of view.
· You need to know that once your spouse believes you understand them; your marriage will be stronger.
· You need to know sometimes even the best husbands and wives weird out. Your life will be happier if you don't make a big deal out of it.
· You need to know a marriage involves holidays with extended family.
· Sometimes that means driving across the country to have a burned turkey dinner and listen to your spouse's family argue about the will. Enjoy.
· You need to know spending time with the kids is good for the family.
· But spending time alone with each other is vital for the marriage.