Deal with your in-laws for a blissful marriage
Shyam and Diya got married and started their life in a new city away from their parents. They loved each other very dearly and lead a peaceful life in the beginning days of marriage. However they could not avoid their dear parents' advice and always kept a vigilant distance from their in-laws. As time passed Shyam started to get a mad rage if the Diya's family calls over. Diya will be in her worst moods if; the Shyam's family comes for a visit. They got separated within one year of their marital life. However the separation period did something good for them. They started to miss each other and startled at the unjustifiable allegations against their partners by their parents in the divorce paper. However they could blissfully come to a decision to live together just before their divorce. They enjoy the real marital bliss away from their parents' unwanted suggestions.
This story is only a minor representation of the modern marital life. The modern daughter-in-laws are fortunate in the aspect that the old-fashioned stereotype of nagging mother-in-law has gone the way of lace doilies. However even the modern mother-in-law relationships can be problematic. Many modern daughter-in-laws face the problem from their partner's family comparing them with another successful women. Most of the modern women are infuriated with these criticizing remarks from their in-laws. You can shrug off comments about your cooking or lawn-mowing skills, but decide as a couple that you'll ask them to stop making judgments about your career choices or parenting abilities.
Majority of the modern son-in-laws face the frequent visits of their wife's family and their suggestions as really irksome. He often feels insecure when his in-laws question about the financial status, health issues, family issues or some happenings at his parent' house. He may not want to discuss all his future plans with his in-laws. You must discuss with your wife about which things are OK to talk with your in-laws and which should remain private. You may also decide that some things are OK to discuss with one set of parents, but not the other. Either way, you have to give priority to your and your wife's opinions to avoid any future calamities.
Many of the parents are annoyed with their in-laws for their simple habits. They may often complain that your son/daughter is not keeping enough contact with you due to your in-law's influence. Make a list of the annoying habits that your in-law possesses. You can find out that most of these annoying habits were pointed at you or your partner at an early stage of your own marriage. Give your children and in-laws their own space to live. They will love and admire you for this generous act.
Couples can keep their marriage blissful through some simple commom habits. You can win your in-laws heart by showing some respect to them. You must let your partner to be loyal to his/her family till a time as you come in second. Even if you have minor problems with your in-laws don't criticize them while your partner complain about them. You can be a good listener and express your opinions at apt moments. As your in-laws and parents age, it is important that you discuss practical concerns with them such as their health and financial issues. On the top of these all put your marriage and partner to lead a blissful marital life.
