Save A Marriage For A Married Couple

A marriage is a union that is shared between two people who love each other dearly. There are times when this love can be torn apart thus leading to a bitter divorce.

There is simple ways where you can now save a marriage making it successful and a happy one too in the end.
The true way to save a marriage is by following the list stated below.

According to author, Alice Bowman, who wrote the book, 'Project: Happily Ever After,'tells us about her advice to unhappy married couples who finds there is no necessity to save a marriage.
Here below is how you can save a marriage.

1.It is best to start with yourself. You yourself can save your marriage if you see your own faults first. Try to understand what you did wrong in the marriage to make it okay.

2.Even though it takes two people to start a fight, it is best you come forward and apologize if you are at fault. Be affectionate with your partner and put your foot forward to put your marriage on the track to make it all better.

3.Turn into a problem solver. When married couples fight, it is best to reason out the fight and come to an understanding so that the both of you understand the reason to stay together or not. Marital problems is very common and you have to deal with them with an open mind.

4.Communication in marriage is very important. A Married couple should find the time to communicate with each other to set aside differences and find things common in the relationship. Communication in a marriage also helps the couple to get to know each other better and learn to except that each one is born different.

5.Intimacy in the relationship is also important. Lovemaking in a marriage should be involved with love, care and romance. Spice up your marriage with different lovemaking positions and tips in order to save a marriage.

These are some ways to help married couples save their marriage.

Effect Of Divorce On Children

 

 

Two people feel that they are not happily married and then one day they decide to part ways. They call for a divorce. The family is now divided into two and the worst one effected by it is the children. The effect of divorce on children is being given utmost importance due to rising rates of divorce in US and now also in India. Out of 6,647 adults, 695 had experienced parental divorce before the age of 18. According to a recent research, one of the worst effect of divorce on children is the suicidal tendency.

Lets look at some other effects of divorce on children -

1.Insecurity – One of the first effect of divorce on children is the feeling of insecurity. They are insecure about their future, about the happy family which they always had and about choosing between one parent. They want to hurt anyone of you and the same time wants t stay with both and lead a normal family life. This inbuilt insecurity and the fear of choosing among parents lead to suicide, depression and denial of life.

2.Fear Of Relationship – Children learn from examples. When they see a marriage failing and are exposed to the cruel side of it, they create an inbuilt fear of relationship. They feel that every relationship ends with a failure. This usually is the case with teenage children. They are on the verge of maturity and this fear of relationship can cause them being speculative of every relationship. This can cause heartbreak. Fear of relationship, can spoil their future.

3.Denial Of The Situation– Most children try to run away from the situation. In the attempt to deny the divorce and all the confusion related to the mishap they try several ways of distraction and attention. All of which is their attempt to get the family back together. Denial of the truth, lead them to take up all wrong ways and habits like alcohol, smoking and other addictions.

4.Hurts Self Esteem – They are in fear of the society talking about their parents divorce. This hurts their self-esteem and it's the most difficult time for them to answer questions. If this goes on since a long time, this may lead to low self-esteem, which affects them this growth and lifestyle.

5.Denial Of Life – On the most dangerous effect of divorce on children is the denial of life. Their mind is so preoccupied with the family falling apart, that everything else turns out to be worthless for them. The worst effected is their academics. Their results get hampered and low grades leads enhances their sadness. Them get themselves into deep trouble.

Your decision of divorce can mean freedom from all trouble for you, but for your children it might bring them a bad future. Thus, think twice before taking a decision. Here are some ways to handle children in case of divorce.

Increasing Divorce Rates -Reason Behind It

 

Relationship, marriages, separation and divorce have become common phenomenons these days. Rather divorce rates have increased at a much faster pace than marriages and relationships. Divorces which was common in the US has now become common even in India. The fast westernizing Indian society, is also witnessing increasing divorce rates. According to one of the researchers, the rate started increasing after second world war and since then it has not come under control.

Lets look at some of the reasons of Increasing divorce rates -

1.Individualism – Now every person is a strong individual, who is very selfish about his happiness. Relationships have also become a commodity of happiness, which when becomes demanding is left easily. Relationships are not being accepted with it's faults. Individualism have made people very self centered. Earlier, relationship was not one to one affair, it was with the consent of the society and was a societal union. Now, no one is bound by society and thus, quitting a relationship or marriage becomes very easy.

2.Materialistic Living - Now living is materialistic. Everything for the sake of money. Less money, less enjoyment, less fulfillment of wishes, are enough reasons for a divorce. With growing job opportunities, fulfilling materialistic needs is not difficult and thus, to leave a relationship and move on to quench that thirst is a easy. There is no limit of being successful and anything which disturbs it has to move out of the way, even if it leads to increased divorce rates.

3.Lack Of Commitment – Commitment is a forgotten term. Earlier, commitment had value and it meant that two people will stay with and for each other in every situation. Today, commitment in a relationship ends with the promise of marriage and is fulfilled with the utterance of the word 'I Do'. Actual test of commitment beings after marriage, but that is not believed now and thus, partners take separate ways.

4.Teenage Affairs – With fast rising teenage affairs, individuals loose their trust on relationship at a much earlier age. Teenage affairs does not work and this leads to faulty decisions later in life .

5.Parent Influence – Children with divorced parents who witness relationship troubles since childhood, create a distaste and disrespect for relationships and the trust that relationships could be successful is lost since the very beginning. Parental influence on the reason of increasing divorce rates cannot be ignored.

Looking at these reasons, I think maybe people have become a bit too practical in life which in a way is getting them back to impracticality. Materialistic thinking is needed for success but a successful relationship needs ore than that.