Marriage – Facts you need to know - 15
· You need to know that if you focus on each other's imperfections, they will only grow larger in your mind.
· You need to know if you have to tell your spouse, "You can't take a joke," you probably didn't tell one.
· You need to know to let go of your compulsion to control your spouse. You're not helping; you're actually driving them crazy.
· You need to know moving can cause problems. Moving to a new city can be marriage altering.
· You need to know that if you can't give up alcohol or drugs for your marriage, you have issues.
· You need to know you're entitled to a life of sobriety and sanity. So are your kids.
· You need to know if your friends think your marriage has issues, you have issues.
· You need to know if you have low self-esteem, you'll think your wife feels the same way about you.
· You need to know that blaming your spouse makes you sound like an eight-year-old.
· You need to know that when people feel powerless, they get scared.
· You need to know if you can't control your spending, you'll have issues.
· You need to know if you're always taking money out of savings to cover your spending, you have issues.
· You need to know if you're always taking a pill to ease the stress, you have issues.
· You need to know if you fight with each other every time you drink, you have issues.
· You need to know if you can't stop criticizing your spouse, you have issues.
· You need to know if you're a moody person, you're hard to live with.
· You need to know a solid marriage is built on cooperation. Not control.
· You need to know working late all the time can lead to issues.
· You need to know a crazy mother-in-law can be an issue. Two crazy mothers-in-law can be reason to move overseas.
· You need to know that if your spouse is afraid of you or your reactions, you have issues.
