Showing posts with label Marriage Quotes. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Marriage Quotes. Show all posts

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Marriage – the facts you need to know - 44

Marriage – the facts you need to know - 44

 

·         You need to know that if she's crying because she doesn't like her new haircut and color, it's a good idea to hand her another $100 to have it redone. Trust me on this.

·         You need to know when your adult kids come home to visit, she will mother them like they're ten years old. If she didn't, they wouldn't come home.

·         You need to know to smile and nod when she says she always wants the kids to have a room to come back to.

·         You need to know you can't change her moods, her fears, or her worries by yelling at her. Men have tried this for eons to no avail.

·         You need to know she doesn't find your burps or expulsions of gas hilarious.

·         You need to know she's not a pyromaniac. She just likes candles. Lots of them. Lit all at the same time.

·         You need to know she'll tell you that you never say "I love you" though you distinctly remember saying it this morning. Doesn't matter.

·         You need to know she won't find pouting manly.

·         You need to know she wishes you'd make dinner every now and then. Even barbecued elk. Something. Anything.

·         You need to know she doesn't really want to know about all your fears. Maybe she can handle your fear of plagues. Maybe your fear of the color red. But not too much more.

·         You need to know a candle can turn a dinner of Campbell's soup into a romantic evening.

·         You need to know she may interrupt your watching 24 to read you a paragraph from a book written two hundred years ago. While crying. Tell her you love it.

·         You need to know if she's acting depressed, she won't just tell you what's wrong. You'll have to ask. Maybe more than ten times.

·         You need to know that, generally speaking, women worry more than men do. So there will be a lot of strange arguments around the fact you're not worried enough.

·         You need to know vacuuming the house can lead to even more fun than giving her a massage.

·         You need to know she'd really like you to shower.

·         You need to know to move all your exercise equipment to the garage even though it looks great in the bedroom. There's no alternative here.

·         You need to know that, although she likes the look of an unshaved guy, she doesn't want his face next to her skin. Yes, it's confusing.

·         You need to know to dress for dinner. You can't just show up in boxer shorts and think your presence will carry the day.

·         You need to know she'll think you're leaving her every morning. Even when you're just going to work.

 

Saturday, May 18, 2013

Marriage – the facts you need to know - 43

Marriage – the facts you need to know - 43

 

·         You need to know she will be stunned to come home to a candlelight dinner served on the fine china. So stunned that amazing things will happen later in the evening.

·         You need to know that a wife who feels taken for granted is a wife who may start looking for another man who makes her feel desirable and wanted.

·         You need to know the answer to her question "What are you thinking?" should always, always, always be "How beautiful you are."

·         You need to know to send her flowers with a truly sappy card for no real reason.

·         You need to know any wife who asks, "Do you love me?" wants a one-word answer. Don't elaborate. ("Yes, though I wish you'd cut your hair like the trainee in legal . . ." Don't go there.)

·         You need to know from this point on no other girl is pretty. The very best looking are "not bad."

·         You need to use deodorant. And floss.

·         You need to know she will care deeply about things that mystify you. Like accent pillows. And bedspreads. Don't ask.

·         You need to know she thinks your back and chest are too hairy. And she wants to shave them.

·         You need to know watching a sunset instead of TV can help you learn more about what's going on with her.

·         You need to know to buy her an extravagant gift every now and then for no reason at all. It says all the things you've neglected to. It might make up for taking her to Hooters on your anniversary.

·         You need to know she'll want to talk about her feelings: her feelings about the future, her feelings about spaghetti, her feelings about her ex best friend in junior high. Though you'd rather pull out your teeth one at a time, sit down and listen.

·         You need to know that even though she loves you, you could use some improvement. Like your clothes. Who bought them for you? Your ex girlfriend?

·         You need to know that, unless requested, she doesn't want your help in the kitchen. Just your company.

·         You need to know a perfectly sane woman can have seven different moods in one hour. You can't control them. Heck, she can't even control them.

·         You need to know there's something genetic in a woman that makes her cook soup when you or your kids are sick.

·         You need to know that, even after twenty-five years, she'll still sometimes worry if you really love her.

·         You need to know that in any twenty-four-hour period, she could be worried about finances, about her parents enjoying retirement, about her children's refusal to get married, about her dog's happiness and about your apparent blindness to dirty clothes on the floor. One right after another.

·         You need to know you're going to like her new haircut. Even though you haven't seen it. You like it.

 

Thursday, May 16, 2013

Marriage – the facts you need to know - 42

Marriage – the facts you need to know - 42

 

·        You need to know to hug her even when she's mad and telling you not to touch her.

·        You need to know to buy her a diamond. Even if you have to wait twenty years to afford the right one.

·        You need to know that, for some reason, women aren't huge fans of movies that involve explosions, car chases, helicopters, gunfights, karate, or girls in swimsuits. Yes, that's weird.

·        You need to know women like to make lists. And just when you think everything on that list is checked off, she'll make another list.

·        You need to know she's not going to want to name her child after a state, a motorcycle, or an English soccer team.

·        You need to know that just because she's a she, she may not know how to sew.

·        You need to know you can't wash your jeans and shorts with her underwear. Who knows why. . . .

·        You need to know it's not always her hormones. You might actually be at fault.

·        You need to know that women, for some reason, care that the bed is made.

·        You need to know to talk to her about more things than how tough your day was and that she's spending too much money.

·        You need to know that lighting a scented candle before she wakes up sets a nice tone for the day.

·        You need to know she will paint the house the color she likes. Your best move is to smile and nod.

·        You need to know how to clean the kitchen. Really, life will be smoother.

·        You need to know that she needs to know she's the most important thing in your life. For some reason, that's easy for women to forget.

·        You need to know to make a pass at her when you're at the movies. Of course you'll get shot down, but you knew the odds were slim anyway.

·        You need to know she'd like you to change T-shirts. In fact, it may be time to throw that fifteen-year-old shirt away.

·        You need to know your feet, your gym socks, and your tennis shoes smell. Don't take it personally when she mentions it.

·        You need to know when she screams at you to slow down, she's not criticizing. She's afraid of pain and death.

·        You need to know the answer to the question "Do I look fat?" is always "No." Always. Always. (For extra credit, you could add, "Actually, I think you could use a few more pounds.")

·        You need to know if you're upset because dinner isn't ready when you get home, you haven't spent enough time doing your wife's job.

 

Tuesday, May 14, 2013

Marriage – the facts you need to know – 41

Marriage – the facts you need to know – 41

 

·         You need to know she won't appreciate the Sports Illustrated swimsuit edition like you do.

·         You need to know she's not going to wear revealing lingerie around the house all the time. Only in your dreams.

·         You need to know you can't buy her happiness. So have a plan B.

·         You need to know if she has a fight with her mom, don't take sides. In fact, go outside.

·         You need to know that if she's criticizing another woman, you're safest play is to smile and agree.

·         You need to know that what women want from their husbands is confidence that everything is going to be all right.

·         You need to know she might not like all your friends. In fact, if she likes one or two of them, count yourself lucky.

·         You need to know that you looking like Arnold Schwarzenegger will be much more important to you than to her.

·         You need to know a woman's intrinsic nature is to guard her nest. Anything that threatens that nest will turn her into an enraged, furious, AK-47 packing kamikaze pilot. It's best to get out of the way.

·         You need to know diapers don't smell any better to her.

·         You need to know if she's not into sports, you'll have to explain the rules. Many women find football as difficult to comprehend.

·         You need to know she married you to be with you. Not to get calls from the duck blind.

·         You need to know that what the Bible says about the way you treat your wife impacts how God answers your prayers.

1 Peter 3:7. Look it up.

·         You need to know to watch her dumb romantic movies, especially if she watches your dumb violent ones.

·         You need to know that she wants you to be able to make a decision. Seriously.

·         You need to know to take her shopping and buy her outfits she would never buy for herself.

·         You need to know that just because she goes to your football, baseball, and basketball games doesn't necessarily mean she likes them. She may just like being with you.

·         You need to know googling "estrogen" will help explain what's happening to your life.

·         You need to know she likes dessert. She doesn't want to be asked if she wants it. She just wants you to order it.

·         You need to know she needs her own group of friends. They can save your marriage.

 

Sunday, May 12, 2013

Marriage – the facts you need to know - 40

Marriage – the facts you need to know - 40

 

·         You need to know she'll keep 92 products on the counter for her to look like she doesn't wear makeup. Yes, they're in the way. No, don't touch them.

·         You need to know she really won't buy into the notion that men are the stronger sex until there's a noise in the house at 2 a.m.

·         You need to know that, for some reason, she'll think the pair of shoes that make her feet hurt the worst look the best on her. There's nothing you can say.

·         You need to know she doesn't want to compete with a game console.

·         You need to know you can't make her happy all the time, you can't please her all the time, and you can't understand her all the time. You can, however, love her all the time.

·         You need to know that if you leave the toilet seat up only one time, that will be the night she staggers to the bathroom at 2:00 a.m. and plops down in the toilet. You won't be able to run far enough.

·         You need to know women fantasize about divorce if they feel they do a majority of the housework. It doesn't matter if you're a CEO. She wants you to help fold clothes.

·         You need to know she'll put on lipstick before bedtime. She wants to look good going to sleep.

·         You need to know to hold her hand when she wouldn't expect it. Like in a football stadium.

·         You need to know to not try to control her spending. She's an adult.

·         You need to know a woman feels loved when she's cared for.

·         You need to know that the sound of you going to the bathroom and brushing your teeth at the same time scares her.

·         You need to know she'll feel jealous if she thinks you're ignoring her to talk to a pretty woman. She'll say she's not jealous. Then she won't say another word the rest of the night.

·         You need to know you can't fix an angry woman. You can listen to her, feed her, agree with her, and listen to her some more. Try and fix her, and it will be your fault.

·         You need to know she's not fooled when you try to kiss her and keep your eyes on the TV at the same time.

·         You need to know she likes your making passes at her. In fact, if you don't, she'll wonder what's wrong.

·         You need to know if you get in her bathtub, not to touch her bubble bath, skin softener, candles, soap, body bath, loofah, moisturizer, bath pouf, bath salts, bath potions, sponge, or her exfoliating glove. Really it would be best to just stay away.

·         You need to know her emery board is not to be used on your feet in bed.

·         You need to know she secretly believes that if you use her razor on your face, you will give her a staph infection. Somehow though, your razor is perfectly safe for her legs.

 

Friday, May 10, 2013

Marriage – the facts you need to know - 39

Marriage – the facts you need to know - 39

 

·         You need to know teenagers can be sullen, moody, difficult, and frustrating even when there's not a stepparent in their lives. You're not the cause.

·         You need to know your stepkids will decide what to call you. They may not be comfortable with "Mom" or "Dad."

·         You need to know to encourage your stepchildren to have close relationships with both their birth parents.

·         You need to know your new family needs new traditions.

·         You need to know special occasions involving children now include you, your new spouse, your ex spouse, everybody's stepchildren, and everybody's parents.

·         You need to know to stay active in your children's lives, especially if they don't live with you.

·         You need to know that, even after you remarry, the pain over the end of your first marriage may take a long, long time to go away.

·         You need to know why the first marriage didn't work. So you can make sure this one will.

·         You need to know his ex mother-in-law might call. Regularly.

·         You need to remember these four words: "Your hair looks great."

·         You need to know she wants to talk. A lot. Sometimes about the kids. Sometimes about a book she's reading. Sometimes about work. Sometimes when all you want is quiet. Sometimes about stuff you've already talked about—several times before.

·         You need to know women come with hormones.

·         You need to know you have assumed the responsibility of protecting her, caring for her, and providing for her in the physical, mental, sexual, emotional, and spiritual areas of her life.

·         You need to know your job isn't more important than hers.

·         You need to know she needs you to be present mentally when you're there physically.

·         You need to know there is a rule, written down somewhere, that says fathers must take their children for donuts on Saturday morning while mom sleeps in. Don't bother trying to find it. Just follow it.

·         You need to know there will be days when her hormones will be in control of her mind. Love her anyway.

·         You need to know her definition of "shopping" does not include buying clothes for the kids, cosmetics, groceries, pots and pans or buying appliances. Those are necessities. Actually "shopping" is hard to pin down.

·         You need to know women feel it their duty to buy presents for every birthday, anniversary, Christmas, and wedding for everyone in their family. And their friends. And their kids' friends.

·         You need to know she still likes it when you open doors for her.

·         You need to know to say "yes" more than you say "no." This is hard for men.

 

Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Marriage – the facts you need to know - 38

Marriage – the facts you need to know - 38

 

·         You need to know your children and their children may never be close friends. But, over time, everybody can learn to respect and tolerate one another.

·         You need to know twins can fight like cats and dogs. So it's normal for stepbrothers and stepsisters to have fallings-out.

·         You need to know you're not Cinderella's stepmother. You're not wicked.

·         You need to know that moving into a new home for a fresh start might be easier for everyone.

·         You need to know you'll be tempted to show favoritism to your stepchildren. Then you'll feel so guilty you'll want to buy your own child a car. But he's only twelve.

·         You need to know the relationship you have with your spouse's kids while you're dating will change when you get married. Inevitably.

·         You need to know that, for a while, the stepparent shouldn't be your kids' disciplinarian.

·         You need to know to decide up-front who's paying for what (the mortgage, vacations, private soccer lessons) and for how long.

·         You need to know to make special arrangements for stepkids who visit a few days each week or month. Make sure they have their own bed, toothbrush, toiletries, and clothes so they feel like members of the family. Not visitors.

·         You need to know to wait until you've bonded as a family before you have a new baby together. The children's nerves are frayed enough.

·         You need to know the moment you start referring to the children as "my kids" and "your kids," you're entering deep water.

·         You need to know some things never change, and that includes disagreements over money, noise, discipline, and other everyday ups and downs of family life.

·         You need to know keeping your emotions bottled up didn't work in your first marriage.

·         You need to know a new marriage isn't going to solve your kids' problems. Kids in new families have the same issues as kids in single-parent divorced homes.

·         You need to know it's important to spend time just with your own kids.

·         They need you now more than ever.

·         You need to know to decide who  makes emergency medical decisions for your kids if you're not around. Your ex? Your spouse? Your father?

·         You need to know a will protects your children, but be sure to address the fact that a surviving spouse might be entitled to your estate. Cutting out your kids.

·         You need to know it's a good idea to keep separate personal accounts, but to pool cost-of-living money in a joint account. This is what the rich and famous do.

·         You need to know your stepkids will probably like their grandparents (her ex in-laws) more than they like you. Perfectly normal.

·         You need to know that if you bring children into a marriage, you're going to have to be deliberate about making time for your marriage.

Doing so will only benefit your kids.

 

Sunday, May 5, 2013

Marriage – the facts you need to know - 37

Marriage – the facts you need to know - 37

 

·         You need to know just one word when it comes to appreciating parents and in-laws: babysitters.

·         You need to know you might spend more time and money taking care of your parents than your kids.

·         You need to know if he wants to live near Mom or if he'd be willing to move to the city for your career.

·         You need to know that at about the same time your kids are leaving home, his parents could be moving in.

·         You need to know being married again means you were blessed to find comfort and companionship again.

·         You need to know that it is totally possible to get it completely wrong the first time, and completely right the second.

·         You need to know marriage is a sacrament. Even second marriages. Even fourth marriages.

·         You need to know a second marriage often means feeling like a teenager when you . . . well . . . have teenagers.

·         You need to know to make a final emotional divorce from your ex in order to clear the path for your new marriage.

·         You need to know a second marriage presents you with new financial complications: houses, retirement accounts, insurance policies, and . . . of course . . . kids.

·         You need to know the chances are good that problems from your first marriage will carry into your second marriage.

·         You need to know if fear and resentment from your first marriage are complicating the second, it's time to seek counseling.

·         You need to know a second marriage means your children can have a part in your wedding. But they may not want to. Let them decide.

·         You need to know your children and your fiancé's children may harbor fantasies of their parents getting back together. Go slowly.

·         You need to know 65% of remarriages include children from previous families.

·         You need to know your children may not be all that thrilled with the possibility of living with a stepparent.

·         You need to know you're not going to fall in love with your partner's children overnight. In fact, it may take a while.

·         You need to know your stepchildren aren't going to fall in love with you because you're a nice person who gives them money.

·         You need to know it's your job to get to know your spouse's children. And to earn their respect.

·         You need to know you'll struggle with who comes first: your kids or your new spouse.

 

Saturday, May 4, 2013

Cost of a Miracle - (A TRUE STORY)

Cost of Miracle

 

A little girl went to her bedroom and pulled a glass jelly jar from its hiding place in the closet.

She poured the change out on the floor and counted it carefully. Three times, even the total had to be exactly perfect. No chance here for mistakes.

Carefully placing the coins back in the jar and twisting on the cap, she slipped out the back door and made her way 6 blocks to Rexall's Drug Store with the big red Indian Chief sign above the door.

She waited patiently for the pharmacist to give her some attention, but he was too busy at this moment. Tess twisted her feet to make a scuffing noise. Nothing. She cleared her throat with the most disgusting sound she could muster. No good finally she took a quarter from her jar and banged it on the glass counter. That did it!

'And what do you want?' the pharmacist asked in an annoyed tone of voice. I'm talking to my brother from Chicago whom I haven't seen in ages,' he said without waiting for a reply to his question.  'Well, I want to talk to you about my brother,' Tess answered back in the same annoyed tone. 'He's really, really sick...and I want to buy a miracle.'

'I beg your pardon?' said the pharmacist.

'His name is Andrew and he has something bad growing inside his head and my Daddy says only a miracle can save him now, so how much does a miracle cost?'

'We don't sell miracles here, little girl. I'm sorry but I can't help you,' the pharmacist said, softening a little.

'Listen, I have the money to pay for it. If it isn't enough, I will get the rest. Just tell me how much it costs.'

The pharmacist's brother was a well dressed man. He stooped down and asked the little girl, 'What kind of a miracle does your brother need?'

' I don't know,' Tess replied with her eyes welling up. I just know he's really sick and Mommy says he needs an operation. But my Daddy can't pay for it, so I want to use my money.'

'How much do you have?' asked the man from Chicago

'One dollar and eleven cents,' Tess answered barely audibly.

'And it's all the money I have, but I can get some more if I need to.'

'Well, what a coincidence,' smiled the man. 'A dollar and eleven cents---the exact price of a miracle for little brothers. '

He took her money in one hand and with the other hand he grasped her mitten and said 'Take me to where you live. I want to see your brother and meet your parents. Let's see if I have the miracle you need.'

That well dressed man was Dr. Carlton Armstrong, a surgeon, specializing in neuro-surgery. The operation was completed free of charge and it wasn't long until Andrew was home again and doing well.

Mom and Dad were happily talking about the chain of events that had led them to this place.


'That surgery,' her Mom whispered. 'was a real miracle. I wonder how much it would have cost?'

Tess smiled. She knew exactly how much a miracle cost. One dollar and eleven cents....plus the faith of a little child.

In our lives, we never know how many miracles we will need. A miracle is not the suspension of natural law, but the operation of a higher law.

 

Friday, May 3, 2013

Marriage – the facts you need to know - 36

Marriage – the facts you need to know - 36

 

·        You need to know that when he actually does clean the house, he wants to be praised like he's coming home from battle.

·        You need to know if someone feels like they're doing all the work in a marriage, the marriage is in trouble.

·        You need to know a dishwasher isn't a birthday gift. It's an appliance.

·        You need to know that every family has issues. Even if everything looks perfectly wonderful from the outside.

·        You need to know that marriage fundamentally changes your relationship with your parents.

·        You need to know your husband's ideas are now more important than your mom's.

·        You need to know you have to get along with her family even though she's told you her father was abusive and her mother hears voices. Happy Thanksgiving.

·        You need to know to not let parents buy you too many gifts. They usually come with strings. And guilt.

·        You need to know you shouldn't try and change your wife because your parents believe she could use some improvement.

·        You need to know your own family, no matter what you think, teeters on mental instability.

·        You need to know your mother-in-law will give you some really screwy gifts. Thank her warmly and re-gift them to your cousin's neighbor's housesitter.

·        You need to know you now have to schedule who you'll have holiday meals with. And that might mean two Thanksgiving dinners in six hours.

·        You need to know she probably doesn't want to be compared to her mother. Compare her to Attila the Hun. Compare her to the plague. Just leave out her mother.

·        You need to know to stay out of family feuds. You'll be seeing these same people during the holidays, and they'll remember that you yelled at them.

·        You need to know that if his mom is an addict, your marriage will be that much more interesting.

·        You need to know that if you're marrying someone whose parents are practicing alcoholics, chances are strong something is off the rails in your family too.

·        You need to know to send your mother-in-law flowers every now and then. Untold benefits.

·        You need to know to not tell your mom about every fight. You'll get over it and make up. She won't.

·        You need to know you'll have to be strong enough to tell your dad to butt out. Your spouse is the most important person in your life now.

·        You need to know your parents don't mean to get in the way. They think they're helping.

 

Wednesday, May 1, 2013

BMD - Bone mineral density test and Osteoporosis - overview

Bone mineral density test

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A bone mineral density (BMD) test measures how much calcium and other types of minerals are in an area of your bone.

This test helps your health care provider detect osteoporosis and predict your risk of bone fractures.

How the Test is Performed

Bone density testing can be done several different ways.

The most common and accurate way uses a dual-energy x-ray absorptiometry (DEXA) scan. It uses low-dose x-rays. (You receive more radiation with a chest x-ray.)

There are two different types of DEXA scans:

  • Central DEXA. You lay on a soft table, and the scanner passes over your lower spine and hip. Usually, you do not need to undress. This scan is the best test to predict your risk of fractures.
  • Peripheral DEXA (p-DEXA). These smaller machines measure the bone density in your wrist, fingers, leg, or heel. These machines are in doctor's offices, pharmacies, shopping centers, and at health fairs.

How to Prepare for the Test

If you are or could be pregnant, tell your health care provider before this test is done.

How the Test Will Feel

The scan is painless. You will need to remain still during the test.

Why the Test is Performed

Bone mineral density (BMD) tests are used to:

  • Diagnose bone loss and osteoporosis
  • See how well osteoporosis medicine is working
  • Predict your risk of future bone fractures

You should have bone mineral testing or screening if you have an increased risk of osteoporosis. You are more likely to get osteoporosis if you are:

  • A woman over 65
  • A man over age 70

Women under age 65 and men ages 50 - 70 are at increased risk of osteoporosis if they have:

  • A broken bone caused by normal activities, such as a fall from standing height or lower (fragility fracture)
  • Chronic rheumatoid arthritischronic kidney disease, eating disorders
  • Early menopause (either from natural causes or surgery)
  • History of hormone treatment for prostate cancer or breast cancer
  • Significant loss of height due to compression fractures of the back
  • Smoking
  • Strong family history of osteoporosis
  • Taking corticosteroid medications (prednisone, methylprednisolone) every day for more than 3 months
  • Three or more drinks of alcohol per day on most days

Normal Results

The results of your test are usually reported as a T-score and Z-score.

  • T-score compares your bone density with that of healthy young women.
  • Z-score compares your bone density with that of other people of your age, gender, and race.

With either score, a negative number means you have thinner bones than the standard. The more negative the number, the higher your risk of a bone fracture.

A T-score is within the normal range if it is -1.0 or above.

What Abnormal Results Mean

Bone mineral density testing does not diagnose fractures. Along with other risk factors you may have, it helps predict your risk of having a bone fracture in the future. Your doctor will help you understand the results.

  • T-score between -1 and -2.5 indicates the beginning of bone loss (osteopenia).
  • T-score below -2.5 indicates osteoporosis.

Treatment recommendation depends on your total fracture risk. This risk can be calculated using the FRAX score. Your health care provider can tell you more about this. You can also find information about FRAX online.

Risks

Bone mineral density uses a slight amount of radiation. Most doctors feel that the risk is very low compared with the benefits of finding osteoporosis before you break a bone.

Considerations

Simple bone density scans using portable machines are often available as part at health fairs or screenings. These portable scanners check the bone density at your wrist or heel. Keep in mind that hip and spine scans are more reliable.

If you are diagnosed with osteopenia or osteoporosis:

  • Keep your bones strong by doing regular weight-bearing exercise such as brisk walking, tennis, or yard work.
  • Exercise such as tai chi improves balance and reduces risk of falls.
  • Check your home for fall hazards, such as loose rugs, to help reduce the risk of falls and fractures.

Alternative Names

BMD test; Bone density test; Bone densitometry; DEXA scan; DXA; Dual-energy x-ray absorptiometry; p-DEXA

References

Lim LS, Hoeksema LJ, Sherin K; ACPM Prevention Practice Committee. Screening for osteoporosis in the adult U.S. population: ACPM position statement on preventive practice. Am J Prev Med. 2009;36:366-375.

National Osteoporosis Foundation. Clinician's Guide to Prevention and Treatment of Osteoporosis. Washington, DC: National Osteoporosis Foundation; 2008.

U.S. Preventive Services Task Force. Screening for osteoporosis: recommendation statement. Am Fam Physician. 2011 May 15;83(10):1197-200.

Update Date: 11/8/2012

Updated by: Susan Storck, MD, FACOG, Chief, Eastside Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology, Group Health Cooperative of Puget Sound, Bellevue, Washington; Clinical Teaching Faculty, Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology, University of Washington School of Medicine. Also reviewed by A.D.A.M. Health Solutions, Ebix, Inc., Editorial Team: David Zieve, MD, MHA, David R. Eltz, Stephanie Slon, and Nissi Wang.


Osteoporosis - overview

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Osteoporosis is a disease in which bones become fragile and more likely to fracture. Usually the bone loses density, which measures the amount of calcium and minerals in the bone.

Causes

Osteoporosis is the most common type of bone disease.

Because of osteoporosis about half of all women over the age of 50 will have a fracture of the hip, wrist, or vertebra (bone of the spine) during their lifetime.

Bone is living tissue. Existing bone is constantly being replaced by new bone. Osteoporosis occurs when the body fails to form enough new bone, when too much existing bone is reabsorbed by the body, or both.

Calcium is one of the important minerals needed for bones to form. If you do not get enough calcium and vitamin D, or your body does not absorb enough calcium from your diet, your bones may become brittle and more likely to fracture.

Sometimes bone loss occurs without any cause. Caucasian women are more likely to have bone loss. Sometimes the tendency to have bone loss and thin bones is passed down through families.

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A drop in estrogen in women at the time of menopause and a drop in testosterone in men is a leading cause of bone loss. Other causes of bone loss include:

  • Being confined to a bed
  • Certain medical conditions
  • Taking certain medicines

Other risk factors include:

  • Absence of menstrual periods (amenorrhea) for long periods of time
  • A family history of osteoporosis
  • Drinking a large amount of alcohol
  • Low body weight
  • Smoking

Symptoms

There are no symptoms in the early stages of osteoporosis. Many times, people will have a fracture before learning that they have the disease.

Pain almost anywhere in the spine can be caused by fractures of the bones of the spine. These are calledcompression fractures. They often occur without an injury. The pain occurs suddenly or slowly over time.

There can be a loss of height (as much as 6 inches) over time. A stooped posture or kyphosis (also called a dowager's hump) may develop.

Exams and tests

Bone mineral density testing (most often with a DEXA scan) measures your bone mineral density. Your health care provider uses this test to:

  • Diagnose bone loss and osteoporosis
  • Predict your risk of future bone fractures
  • See how well osteoporosis medicine is working

spine or hip x-ray may show fracture or collapse of the spinal bones. However, simple x-rays of other bones are not very accurate in predicting whether you are likely to have osteoporosis.

You may need other blood and urine tests if your osteoporosis is thought to be due to a medical condition, rather than simply the usual bone loss seen with older age.

Treatment

Treatment for osteoporosis may involve:

  • Lifestyle changes, such as diet and exercise
  • Taking calcium and vitamin D
  • Using medicines

Medicines are used to strengthen bones when:

  • Osteoporosis has been diagnosed by a bone density study, whether or not you have a fracture.
  • A bone fracture has occurred and a bone density test shows that you have thin bones, but not osteoporosis.

Medicines used to treat osteoporosis include:

  • Bisphosphonates (the main drugs used to prevent and treat osteoporosis in postmenopausal women)
  • Estrogens, teriparatide, raloxifene, and calcitonin

Exercise plays a key role in preserving bone density in older adults. Some of the exercises recommended to reduce your chance of a fracture include:

  • Weight-bearing exercises -- walking, jogging, playing tennis, dancing
  • Free weights, weight machines, stretch bands
  • Balance exercises -- tai chi, yoga
  • Rowing machines

Avoid any exercise that presents a risk of falling. Also, do not do high-impact exercises that can cause fractures in older adults.

Your body needs calcium and vitamin D to keep your bones strong. Vitamin D helps your body absorb calcium.

  • Adults under age 50 should have 1,000 mg of calcium and 400 - 800 IU of vitamin D daily.
  • Women ages 51 to 70 should have 1,200 mg of calcium and 400 - 800 IU of vitamin D a day; men ages 51 to 70 need 1,000 mg of calcium and 400 - 800 IU of vitamin D a day.
  • Adults over age 70 should get 1,200 mg of calcium and 800 IU of vitamin D daily. 
  • Your doctor may recommend a calcium supplement.
  • Follow a diet that provides the proper amount of calcium and vitamin D.

Stop unhealthy habits:

  • Quit smoking, if you smoke.
  • Limit your alcohol intake. Too much alcohol can damage your bones. This puts you at risk of falling and breaking a bone.

It is important to prevent falls. The following are suggestions on how to do this:

  • Do not take sedating medicines, which can make you drowsy and unsteady. If you must take them, be extra careful when you are up and about. For example, hold on to countertops or sturdy furniture to avoid falling.
  • Remove household hazards, such as throw rugs, to reduce the risk of falls.
  • Leave lights on at night so you can see better when walking around your house.
  • Install and use safety grab bars in the bathroom.
  • Make sure your vision is good. Have your eyes checked once or twice a year by an eye doctor.
  • Wear shoes that fit well and that have heels. This includes slippers. Slippers that do not have heels can cause you to trip and fall.
  • Do not walk outdoors alone on icy days.

Surgery to treat severe, disabling pain from spinal fractures due to osteoporosis include:

Outlook (Prognosis)

Medicines to treat osteoporosis can help prevent future fractures. But spine bones that have already collapsed cannot be reversed.

Osteoporosis can cause a person to become disabled from weakened bones. Hip fractures are one of the main reasons people are admitted to nursing homes.

Prevention

Calcium is important for building and maintaining healthy bone. Vitamin D is also needed because it helps your body absorb calcium. Following a healthy, well-balanced diet can help you get these and other important nutrients.

Other tips for prevention:

  • Do not drink large amounts of alcohol.
  • Do not smoke.
  • Get regular exercise.

Medicines can prevent osteoporosis. Your doctor can tell you if any are right for you.

Alternative Names

Thin bones; Low bone density

References

Lewiecki EM. In the clinic. Osteoporosis. Ann Intern Med. 2011;155(1):ITC1-1-15;quiz ITC1-16.

National Osteoporosis Foundation. Clinician's Guide to Prevention and Treatment of Osteoporosis. Washington, DC: National Osteoporosis Foundation; 2010.

North American Menopause Society. Management of osteoporosis in postmenopausal women: 2010 position statement of The North American Menopause Society. Menopause. 2010 Jan-Feb;17(1):25-54.

Park-Wyllie LY, Mamdani MM, Juurlink DN, Hawker GA, Gunraj N, Austin PC, et al. Bisphosphonate use and the risk of subtrochanteric or femoral shaft fractures in older women. JAMA. 2011;305(8):783-789.

Update Date: 11/15/2012

Updated by: C. Benjamin Ma, MD, Assistant Professor, Chief, Sports Medicine and Shoulder Service, UCSF Department of Orthopaedic Surgery. Also reviewed by A.D.A.M. Health Solutions, Ebix, Inc., Editorial Team: David Zieve, MD, MHA, David R. Eltz, Stephanie Slon, and Nissi Wang.